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Alyza & Angelika’s Family Tree- Paternal Grandmother’s Line

Filed under: Uncategorized @ March 15, 2008 3:59 pm by healthiacynthia

Alyza’s & Angelika’s Family Tree (on the Rempel Line)

Grief at Christmas

Filed under: Uncategorized @ December 14, 2007 4:22 pm by healthiacynthia

It’s drizzling out today and I feel like I need some action… this ‘rappin granny’ has the energy to keep herself young and beautiful for many years to come.

This is a tough time of the year for many families. The expectations for an unforgettable Christmas are stacked up there with the memories of Christmases past that can’t be forgotten because of their horrible and/or disappointing features. People don’t “move on” until they have fully grieved. Much of what happens at Christmas is a reflection of what has not been ‘deal with’ by family members stuck in their grief.

Grief is change– thinking of it in these terms sometimes defuses the emotion. What can you do to handle the ‘changes’ that need to be made in your family?

Is it possible to talk during a time when there isn’t a crisis happening? A good time is when you have just had a chuckle together, or shared some favorite food. I used to find that driving was an appropriate time to gently bring up delicate issues… if the other person doesn’t feel ‘on the defensive’, the interior of a car is frequently a safety zone…. the driver is driving, so can’t do the eyeball-to-eyeball thing that sometimes triggers fear and hostility. What are some ideas for a place and time to talk about the ‘bad feelings’?

This is just one of hundreds of ideas for dealing with loneliness, sadness and anger that get in the way of happy family togetherness. Do a search and find other ideas, and God bless you!